I never thought I’d be exposed to something like this at UMN but I actually stumbled on it accidentally. A friend of mine who did not come from a well to do family was suddenly sporting the latest Yeezys and designer handbags. When I asked her what she was doing and whether she could introduce me, she told me she was a sugarbaby and was signed up with an agency-like platform. I was incredibly interested because then I would never even have to wonder about what is a soft credit check, especially when I have as much cash as she does.
She told me about how she charged her customers - mostly older men - and that they were expected to pay for her skincare, outfits and even gym membership because she needs to look good for them. When I asked her how many sugar daddies she has, she told me that she has had up to seven at a time but then it dropped down to four consistent guys. She went on to explain that it’s incredibly safe and many of these older men are respectable and will never ask you for something you weren’t ready to give. Many of them are just not interested in the act of pursuing someone and just wanted a little bit of attention or company.
However, a friend of hers wasn’t so lucky. She managed to get the attention of someone who probably wasn’t in the best place mentally. He stalked her incessantly when she decided she didn’t want to see him anymore, but hey, that could happen to anyone whether they are a sugar baby or not.
The idea of earning money for rent and groceries by simply going on dates was a tantalizing idea. However, it was hard not to feel objectified after a while because you’re essentially getting money for your companionship and usually people only pay for things and not time. However, sometimes I would pretend that I was a shrink and that I was being paid to help them sort out their problems. Some of these men had girlfriends or wives but didn’t have any girl friends that they were able to talk to so I saw myself as something to fill that particular void.
After a few months and when I had enough to cover my rent for the rest of the school year, I turned to my passion and the reason I was in university. I began documenting the lives of sugar babies and sugar daddies. I swapped out their names so I could publish their stories. After a while, I began to see revenue pouring in through my website so I stopped going on paid dates. It was fun, but I think it is important to do something that you really love and not just do it for the sake of money (unless you had no other choice). Since my website is seeing a little bit of success, I think I’m going to try writing a novel next.